We know, we know. We LOVE hot mess over here at HotMessFolder. Truth is we don’t want YOU to be a hot mess. We’re just here to put newsmakers on blast. Which is why we’re happy to bring you expert advice on living hot mess-free from time to time.
If you’re kind of a hot mess, you should’ve been at Cosmopolitan’s Fun Fearless Life conference this past weekend. And let’s be honest, we’re all a hot mess in some way or another. The two-day event took place at the Lincoln Center in New York City. HMF was thrilled to be on hand to share highlights. Nearly everyone who took to the stage was impressive. But when it came to serving up insights on how to NOT be a hot mess, there were a few standouts from our perspective.
Nude photos in the wrong hands could be a hot mess situation for anyone. We loved Actress Gabrielle Union’s take on how to handle it. Union really wowed us with her candor. As soon she sat down with Cosmo’s editor, Joanna Coles, she got right into talking about the celebrity nude photo hacking scandal. Gabrielle Union did not hold back. She told the Fun Fearless Life crowd the photo hacking “was a crime, period.”
Union said although her NBA star hubby, Dwayne Wade, tried to comfort her, she still felt the public’s gaze when her nude photos were leaked. Union said, “when someone takes your power away relating to your own body, it’s a crime.” Union urged the women in the crowd to take power and control of their lives back when something bad happens. Union said that’s why she decided to speak out publicly and write an essay about her experience for Cosmo. Union also told the crowd to demand tech companies do more to make digital content secure. “What you do with your body is a choice,” said Union.
There’s no no doubt hot mess pops up when it comes to starting a new business or venture. This brings us to another Fun Fearless Life standout: Spanx founder Sara Blakely. Blakley delivered sound advice on creating your own lane . “A lot of people will come into your journey trying to take you off course of your drive,” said Blakley. She said she took inventory of her own life after college to find out what she wanted to do. She said the inspiration for Spanx literally was her own butt. Blakley told the Fun Fearless Life crowd there are two things to be successful: attitude and drive. Blakley says you can’t learn drive in school. She said she sometimes “fumbled her way throughout it” when it came to getting Spanx into a major retailers. Blakely said just as she was running out of friends and money Oprah called. Yeah, Sara Blakely is pretty badass.
We all know sharing our ideas with others can make us feel like a hot mess. Well, the COO & Chairman of Atlantic Records Julie Greenwald, spoke some powerful stuff on this front. She told the crowd you have to be willing to be vulnerable to be creative in business. Greenwald said she isn’t inspired by people who can’t be vulnerable. Wow. Let that gem sink in.
This brings us to E! News correspondent Alicia Quarles. She was on a panel about “making your mark” with other women including: Maybelline marketing executive Anne Marie Nelson-Bogle and actress Shay Mitchell. It was moderated by DKNY PR girl Aliza Licht. It was a truly fantastic panel. You could tell the women all had a lot of respect for each other. But there was one little nugget that really stuck out to us. Alicia Quarles talked about recently moving in with a friend who is battling cancer, so she could help her out. If that isn’t a fearless move to face a hot mess (and sad) situation head on, we don’t know what is. Now that’s true friendship.
We also really enjoyed Black Girls Rock founder Beverly Bond. She talked about finding other people who believed in her vision. The director of Hispanic Communications at The White House, Katherine Vargas, was on point too. She talk about how fashion is just another communication tool at your disposal. Awesome way to put it. Vargas said she thinks First Lady Michelle Obama has reinvented what it means to be FLOTUS.
We’d be amiss not to mention Kelly Osbourne. She was really cool and funny. She kept it real about what it’s like to feel like a hot mess when it comes to your weight. She’s turned her health completely around and it’s truly inspiring.
The biggest hot mess moment has to go to Chrissy Teigen. She kicked off a guy’s panel with a loaded question: asking why guy’s take & send dick pics. Yes, dick pics, as in pictures of their dicks. It lead to a hilarious and actually rather thought provoking conversation. But it was also a hot mess. Thank you for that, Chrissy.
Gabrielle Bernstein, Jillian Michaels, Dr. Jennifer Ashton, and Nasty Girl founder Sophia Amoruso were a few of our other favorites. Thanks for having us, Cosmo. We feel like a bit less of a hot mess for having been there!